What Type of Parent Are You?

Recently someone innocently asked me if I was someone into attachment parenting. Apparently some of my FB posts peaked their curiosity. While I didn’t know I was supposed to pick a side when it comes to parenting, I’d have to say no, I’m not. I think highly of a lot of aspects of attachment parenting but I don’t think it’s the be all, end all when it comes to raising my child. If you were to back me into a corner and force me to brand my parenting style it would be this: I am a Christian parent.

Let me explain what that means to me. I have one end goal for Laura’s life and any other future little Visaggio babies that fly from this nest: They have faith that Christ is their Savior and when their earthly times of grace are over, they will be with Him in heaven. John 3:16, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” The most important absolute truth that I’ve made my life’s mission to teach my children is right there in a nutshell.

It isn’t always easy to keep this goal as the focus when the world around me is telling me so many other things are imperative to good parenting. It’s truly difficult to be a parent and be in the world but not of the world, to be all things to all people. So what does being a Christian parent in an earthly world entail? Looking to God’s Word for the answers:

From birth teaching my children God’s Word. 2 Timothy 3:14-17 “But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, and how from infancy you have known the holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

Discipline in love with grace and mercy. Colossians 3:12-14 “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”

Daily reflect Christ’s love so my children may know our Heavenly Father. Matthew 5: 14-16 “You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.”

Pray for my children unceasingly. 1 Thessalonians 5: 17-18 “Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

Trusting that no matter how I fail daily, Jesus has my children in His good hands. John 14:1-3 “Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.”

Preparing my children to withstand temptations. Proverbs 22:6 “Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it.”

Praise God for all His wonderful blessings with my children. Ephesians 5:19-20 “Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Bring my children to church to have their little faith continually strengthened. Hebrews 10:24-25 “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

Use time as home to study God’s Word as a family through Bible stories & devotions. Romans 10:17 “Consequently faith comes from hearing the message and the message is heard through the word of Christ.”

So, yes, there is a guide that I strive to follow when it comes to parenting. It doesn’t so much depend on recent research, studies, and philosophies, but rather on the ever-lasting, unchanging truth of God’s word. I don’t sweat the small choices and battles anymore because I have an eternal end goal as my focus. 

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